On Monday, Oct.24, 2011 my beloved Mother, was on her way to my brother's home to look online for a place to live. We have been looking and looking to no avail. It always looks great online and we get there and it's a place you want to run away from fast before you are trapped there forever or pick up some unknown pathogen of some kind. It has been the worst trial and error process ever.
The night before Rick had told me to call Mom and let her know that I would be emailing places instead and waiting for those who email me back, that way we know if we even have a chance at getting in with the credit issues and other stability questions, etc. It was a little late and I said I would call her the next morning, but she beat me to the punch and headed out around 10-11am and I had overslept. If I had only called her the night before maybe she wouldn't have been out. Then again, when the Lord wants something to go a certain way, we have no choice but to deal with it. She would've ended up choosing to go to the store or something else.
Now, granted, she has a cane and a walker. I don't know why she won't use the cane and frankly in this situation I don't think it would've helped the way the sidewalk at the trailer park is uneven and cracked. The landlord even mentioned she has injured herself twice in the sidewalks there. This wasn't the smartest answer especially if the park is liable because this is not just a simple fall.
Instead of just a simple fall and tumble, she fell on her right side when her foot twisted on the uneven corner of the sidewalk. The ankle broke as soon as it twisted and she fell to the ground where her humerus bone, up near her shoulder was also broken, and somehow her face was injured as she has a black eye and mouth and it will get worse from there the doctor said. She is bruised black and blue all over the one side.
They want to - strike that, they are NOW saying they MUST do the surgery or the bone in her shoulder will just die if left alone and untreated. They want to put a plate in so that she will have mobility left in the arm she uses. They also said that in a couple years they will have to go back in probably to redo some work. Mom is afraid of it all because of the fact of time and no place for anyone to live and the government doesn't care. Chelsea needs to get back into school or her checks will stop, Mom just wants a home, and I just want a place where I can go back to taking care of Mom the best way I can. For some reason, even though she and I can argue on occasion, she is still best with me as I have patience out the wazoo most of the time and can do almost anything she needs me to do with my past elder care history.
She also trusts my medical opinion more than others just because I've been with her to all her doctors and stayed involved in everything. In fact, just two days prior to the accident she wanted to signed over Power of Attorney for me to be able to care for her clerical affairs and such without her having to be there. There are banking issues, billing issues, housing issues, mailing issues, social security issues, pension issues, car issues and all on top of that are family issues which should be put aside for this emergency but sometimes this cannot be done with passions run so hot and hard.
All I know is this is the first time since I can remember Mom being in a hospital where I wasn't there almost all the time, but I'm stuck without a vehicle of my own. And, I have the care and upkeep and an old dog that nobody else can read his signs of what and when he needs things. Rick cannot take care of him all the time because he has his own dog outside to worry about. Meanwhile, we are here at my brother's and his family issues are paramount. He is dealing with some of the same issues Mom, Rick and I and even Jamie have had to deal with Chelsea in the past. They all think they are grown up but don't have a clue and are needed because they are a part of the household and their monies are needed.
I'm watching my brother fall apart and all the growth he has accomplished trying to bring him down and I can only hope he says damn it to it all and takes care of school because that is his only way out of living an even older life with nothing to fall back on. At least he is getting educated and has inspired me to follow suit, but right now I cannot even plan for something like this because I have no way to get to school.
Jamie has all of Mom's paperwork and vehicle. I need everything, including the vehicle to get things done. The hospital stay is going to be around 5 weeks which I don't know if Mom can handle, meanwhile, I am stuck at my brother's and it's not getting warmer out. Rick is losing it slowly getting stir crazy living in the tent since he cannot bring the dog inside.
And through it all, I just want to see Mom.
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